I'd be willing to trade you some books, not certain ones though.
Here's an excerpt from Martin Fowler's Refactoring:
"refactoring can lead to simpler designs without sacrificing flexibility. this makes the design process easier and less stressful. once you have a broad sense of things that refactor easily, you don't even think of the flexible solutions. you have the confidence to refactor if the time comes. you build the simplest thing that can possibly work. as for the flexible, complex design, most of the time you aren't going to need it."
Some of the books I was referring to,
test driven development by kent beck, the pragmatic programmer, event based programming, analysis patterns, design patterns (GoF), OO methods ( foundation edition and Object-Oriented Methods: Pragmatic Considerations edition ), patterns of enterprise application architecture, refactoring (as was mentioned ), domain driven design,
Object-Oriented Software Construction,
Art of Computer Programming, The, Volumes 1-3,
Pattern-Oriented Software Architecture Volume 1
Object-Oriented Analysis and Design with Applications,
Working Effectively with Legacy Code,
Refactoring to Patterns, implementation patterns, How the Mind Works, The Language Instinct: How the Mind Creates Language, Pragmatic Thinking and Learning: Refactor Your Wetware , Domain-Specific Application Frameworks: Frameworks Experience by Industry, Don't Make Me Think! A Common Sense Approach to Web Usability, Object Solutions: Managing the Object-Oriented Project, Object Oriented Software Engineering: A Use Case Driven Approach , IBM Office Systems: Architectures and Implementations by Martin, Principles of Object-Oriented Analysis and Design, Object Oriented Analysis, Structured Analysis and System Specification, Practical Guide to Structured Systems Design, Designing Object-Oriented Software
maybe not 25 i was just throwing that number out there to show off

i got some more domain specific books though that I didn't list, some of these are still on my wishlist, including a few I didnt mention.. feel free to buy them for me
http://www.amazon.com/gp/registry/wishl ... P7FT2ER523