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Trouble with girlfriend/spouse/significant other

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How do you deflect the incessant complaints about 'how can you always be on the computer' or 'you like the computer more than me' or 'if you look at one more website, I'm going to be mad?' What techniques do you use to take advantage of your precious computer time at home?

Personally, I like to find a good distraction, like handing her the latest edition of cosmo or equiv. This usually distracts her for another 30 minutes while I wrap it up. :twisted: Also, suggesting that she take a shower also buys me some time.

Edit: Perhaps a little distasteful
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If this is for real, you have a serious problem.
Real life is more important.
If your relationship suffers from you're time being online, you should think of the thing you'll miss the most
when it has gone to far.
If it's for your work, she will surely understand.
Otherwise, cut back on the online time.
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Deflect sometimes, but only when absolutely necessary. If she is really jamming you about it that means she is feeling neglected. If that is the case, it is time to power down and take her out. Spoil her rotten. You know, facials, nails, dinner, wine, the whole shebang. Show her how much she means to you, then, when it is almost over, find a way to explain that the reason you code like you do is so you can do more of the things she wants to do. For just a short time you need to take time away from her so that you later on you can give her more of your time.
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thiscatis wrote:If this is for real, you have a serious problem.
Real life is more important.
If your relationship suffers from you're time being online, you should think of the thing you'll miss the most
when it has gone to far.
If it's for your work, she will surely understand.
Otherwise, cut back on the online time.
I think you've got me all wrong here. She bugs me if I sit there for 30 minutes without talking to her (30 minutes!). I think it may be the 'barely 1 year relationship syndrome'
Everah wrote:Deflect sometimes, but only when absolutely necessary. If she is really jamming you about it that means she is feeling neglected. If that is the case, it is time to power down and take her out. Spoil her rotten. You know, facials, nails, dinner, wine, the whole shebang. Show her how much she means to you, then, when it is almost over, find a way to explain that the reason you code like you do is so you can do more of the things she wants to do. For just a short time you need to take time away from her so that you later on you can give her more of your time.
I took her out Saturday night for a little fun in St. Pete :)
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How much time do you spend on the computer everyday?
How much of that time is spent with her around?
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yay for high maintainance.
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you might want to try a more suitable site.

P.S: I don't really want to be on the computer when I get home. After sitting on it for 9 hours at work: I'm quite happy to watch TV, cook, talk when I get home to my girlfriend.
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Post by hydroxide »

Daedalus- wrote:How much time do you spend on the computer everyday?
How much of that time is spent with her around?
I work from 7AM to about 1-2 PM as a web developer. I usually spend the rest of my day with her, doing whatever. I don't usually do personal stuff at work, so sometimes I like to browse places like zilvia.net and such when I'm home.
robincard wrote:you might want to try a more suitable site.
God, she's a myspace addict/whore/other buzzword


But then again, this thread wasn't supposed to be analyzing my relationship... more as a testing ground for useful ideas to *ahem* deal with Mrs. High Maintenance *ahem*
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Kill her... its the only solution.
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The Ninja Space Goat wrote:Kill her... its the only solution.
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Post by Benjamin »

Get her a computer of her own.
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The Ninja Space Goat wrote:Kill her... its the only solution.
nec·ro·phil·i·a (nĕk'rə-fĭl'ē-ə) pronunciation also nec·roph'i·lism (nĭ-krōf'ə-lĭz'əm, nĕ-)
n.

1. Obsessive fascination with death and corpses.
2. Erotic attraction to or sexual contact with corpses.
Not my cup of tea...
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He wanted to kill my cat too :lol:
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Edited based on OP post. Thank you.
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...right...

edit: aimed at the necrophillia thing.
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